Daily Archives: February 6, 2012
This past weekend, some friends invited us to a Moroccan restaurant way outside our bubble, otherwise known as our neighborhood. I’m an adventurous eater, although a lot of food doesn’t like me as much as it used it (darned old age). We ate soup from bowls without utensils, dipped appetizers in bread, ate meats and desserts I hadn’t had before and ended the meal with spicy tea. Oh, yeah, and we also sat on the floor. Both of my kids got jiggy with the belly dancer (including my almost teenaged son) and we all had a great time.
This experience got me to thinking about life. So often we live inside our bubble, going to the same places with the same people over and over and over again. We get comfortable living in a neighborhood where everybody is pretty much the same as us. Like usually seeks out like. But sometimes, when we step out of our comfort zone, the most amazing things can happen.
I’ll give you one perfect example. Years ago, I started writing a novel because I’d read a really bad book and thought I could do better. When I figured out that I loved writing novels, I knew I had to learn more and become involved in the writing community. This was WAY outside my comfort zone. WAY, WAY OUT! But I took a deep breath, put my big girl pants on, and marched myself to the local romance writers meeting month after month.
Was I uncomfortable? You better believe I was. Did I walk into those meetings and feel like I’d found exactly what I was looking for? No, not necessarily. But I kept going and I can’t tell you how glad I am that I did. It was at those meetings where I met my support group—a group of women who I’m now fortunate enough to call friends—very, very good friends. I adore these women and even if one or all of us stopped writing, we would still be friends. I’m a better writer because of these women, I’m a stronger person thanks to their encouragement, and I feel a part of something special when we are together.
I never would have made these friendships if I’d stayed inside my very comfortable bubble, there is no doubt in my mind. So the next time you feel like playing it safe, not making waves, or putting your dreams on hold, do something crazy and just try something new. Come on, folks, I dare you!
Now, I’d love to hear a story of how you all stepped out of your comfort zone and what happened when you did. I’d also like to wish one of my friends and support group members and very Happy Birthday…Tracy Solheim! Yeah, I know. I’m SO lucky!