Change And How We Deal With It
Posted by Patricia Yager Delagrange
My son graduated from high school. My daughter graduated from middle school.
He started junior college several days ago. She starts high school this Monday.
Change. My life is always changing. These changes are good, but my stomach and the rest of my body are reacting otherwise. I usually go to bed at 10:30. Now I’m having trouble falling asleep. I wake up too early and only get about 5 or 6 hours rest. I have headaches every day and Advil isn’t helping. This is the first time I’ve come up “idea-less” when I tried to think of something to write for Women Unplugged. As Kristen Lamb would say, this is “bad ju-ju”.
For thirteen years I drove my son to school and for nine years I drove my daughter as well. Now he gets a ride from his friend to the junior college and she wants to walk to school. The “typical” day I had been accustomed to for so many years has been completely turned upside down. Of course, I still have a reason to get up in the mornings. I have books to edit, novels to read, wash to do and errands to run, dogs to feed and a horse to ride. I DO have a life separate from my two kids.
But do I have to get up at 6:30 in the morning to drive them to school, make sure they take their lunches, jackets, and book bags? Not really. My son has already established his college routine that involves being with his friends 24/7. And she will have to leave really early to walk to school, loves to be involved in extracurricular activities, and has tons of friends.
Am I feeling lonely already? I’d say, yes, a bit. Feeling less needed? Yeah, a little. I still want to “be here” for them when they get home. I swear, it’s in my genes. I am so accustomed to being the rock that’s always waiting for them, I don’t know how to act any other way.
Does anyone else out there feel like this?
Posted on August 24, 2012, in Blog Posts and tagged change, Musa Publishing, Patricia Delagrange, Patricia Yager, Patricia Yager Delagrange, Patti Delagrange, Patti Yager, Patti Yager Delagrange, women's fiction author. Bookmark the permalink. 20 Comments.