Daily Archives: September 3, 2014
In my last post, I mentioned that I had signed up for the 21-day “Expanding Your Happiness” Meditation Experience from Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey. It’s been an interesting 3 weeks, forcing myself to sit quietly for 20 minutes a day, while getting ready for a book launch.
One of the most memorable meditations was the one on serenity. Chopra quoted the saying, “There is no way to peace. Peace is the way.”
With so much war in the news right now, that saying seems particularly apt. You can’t fight your way to peace. Maybe you can fight your way to domination. But the discontent will continue to stir.
The only way you can truly find peace is to make peace your starting point. To reject the idea of conflict. To live and let live.
And if that’s true, then peace is a choice.
Now, don’t get me wrong. Peace isn’t easy. Not unless everyone around you also chooses peace, which they won’t.
But the decision of whether to engage is yours. When someone disagrees with you, you can argue, or you can stop talking.
It seems I’m constantly relearning this lesson. In the echo chamber that is Facebook, I’ll occasionally try to make a point that differs by maybe five percent from what the other commenters are saying. Utter waste of time. No one cares what you think, unless you’re agreeing with them. There’s a place for discourse, but Facebook isn’t it.
Life is too short to argue with people who aren’t listening. As long as they’re not hurting anyone, let them have their opinions, even if they’re demonstrably wrong. Peace is about choosing serenity inside yourself, and engaging positively with others when you can. And when you can’t, the best use of your time is to walk away.
As the prayer says, accept the things you cannot change.
I’m still working on that one.
What about you? How do you find serenity?