When contemplating what to post today I thought about the name of this blog – Women Unplugged. I don’t recall who thought of the title but I like it. It’s unique and appropriate. Why?
I notice that there are few, if any, men who read our posts. I don’t wonder why since it’s obviously a blog for women who want to read posts that are, well, unplugged – out of the norm, different, not what you’d expect, et al.
I enjoy reading what’s written here because I never know what to expect. Every woman’s post is uniquely different than any others that have been written before. No posts “fit” into any particular category or theme. That’s what makes them all “unplugged”.
I see the posts in my inbox and, just as Forest Gump would say, “you never know what you’re gonna get”.
So I’m taking my “day” for posting on the Women Unplugged site to say “thank you” to those women who are not only writing the posts but reading them as well.
What does “unplugged” mean to you?
Two days until Mother’s Day so I know you’re not surprised I’m writing about being a mom, right? I’ve often been asked, “Do you have an age that’s your favorite?” Now that my son is 20 and my daughter’s 15, this question makes me laugh out loud. It implies motherhood stops at a certain age, i.e. that I can ALREADY look back and decide what time I liked the best. HA!!! How would I know what age is the most fun raising kids when my job is far from over?
I used to read articles about how difficult it is to be a “new mom”. That is to say, when you have a baby who wakes up in the middle of the night several times and you have to nurse. Then there’s changing dirty diapers all day, every day for years. Feeding bottles, spoon-feeding gloppy pureed string beans, potty-training, learning to walk and talk, and on and on. Oh so difficult.
Now that my kids are older, I look back and roll my eyes and shake my head. THAT was hard? HA!
I think not.
Raising teenagers, in my opinion, is one of the hardest ages – hands down..so far, that is.
You no longer say, “No”, and get listened to. Everything’s an argument or a discussion. Your word is no longer “the law”. Sometimes you feel as if you’re living with criminals the way they defy your supposed “laws”.
And I thought I spent a ton of money on baby food, Avent bottles, and diapers? That’s nothing compared to prom dresses, high heels, purses, perfume, Taco Bell! It’s the constant “break out the check book, Mom, puh-leeze!” Going to the movies costs a chunk of change. And the driving? I now know what it’s like to be a taxi driver. Boyfriend problems, having sex when I never knew he was dating…the list is eternal.
And it’s not over, believe me. They both still live at home. I’m happy about that. I’d miss them terribly if they weren’t here. The expensive economical state of affairs in California precludes either of them from leaving the nest and breaking out on their own.
Which means motherhood has most definitely not stopped just because they’re 20 and 15.
And other mothers have told me (thank you, Florence) that even when they’re 50, they still cry “Mom!” when they’re in trouble.
But I would not take back a single day.
Happy Mother’s Day to me and ALL you mothers out there!
Now that my kids are 20 and 15 Easter Sunday doesn’t carry the anticipation it used to when they were young. In the past I had to wait until they were sound asleep before I filled their baskets with chocolates and stuffed animals then I’d have to find a good place to set the baskets — away from anywhere the dogs could get at them. I’d leave a trail of tiny eggs that eventually met up with the baskets. My husband would take videos of the kids (EARLY in the morning) looking and finding their gifts from the Easter Bunny. It was all so much fun.
And now? Easter Sunday has metamorphosed into a day where my daughter makes up baskets for each of us and I do the same for the two kids and though we “say” they’re from the E.B., it’s not the same. We host dinner for the family and enjoy each other’s company but the anticipation and excitement is in the past, replaced with watching some sort of sports on the television and eating ham and sweet potatoes.
I long for the days when I played the E.B. role.
What do you do to celebrate Easter?
From the Texas Country Reporter – a beautiful video about love and home and work and how life is short.
It’s the New Year. It’s 2014. And most of you reading this post are women. I just wanted to take a few moments of your time to remind you of several very important things you should do sometime in 2014 IF you haven’t already scheduled them.
1. Get a yearly health exam. It’s a good thing to do. You only need to see the doctor once a year — unless there are other reasons you’re going: you’re sick, have a chronic health issue, etc. But even if you don’t “need” to, you need to anyway. Everyone should be checked out at least once a year. You never know what new and exciting questions your doctor may ask you that might help you in keeping healthy all year round and live a longer life.
2. Get an annual mammogram. They’re changing the guidelines all the time, but I think most doctors suggest you have a mammogram once a year after the age of 40. My breast cancer (DCIS) could only be detected in a mammogram, not by a monthly self-exam. So, GO DO IT. Make that appointment now. You could be saving a life, i.e. YOUR OWN.
3. Get an eye exam. I used to poo-poo these but as we age, our vision can change with time. You might need glasses, or maybe your prescription isn’t strong enough. Why strain those beautiful baby blues (or greens or browns or whatever color your eyes may be) if you can see your eye doctor once a year and get checked out.
4. Exercise. We all know we should exercise to keep healthy, reduce stress, and lift our overall mood. I never exercised when I was younger. I skated and rode a bicycle when I was a kid, took the bus instead of walking when I was a teenager. It took me years and years of generally not feeling quite “up to par” for me to hear, “Stop drinking caffeine and exercise” for me to take it to heart. Now, if I don’t incorporate a short bike ride into my daily schedule, things feels a bit off. And it’s fun to get outside, especially since many of us are so tied to our computers.
5. Take time for yourself. We’ve all heard this a million times, I’m sure. Taking time for yourself can mean many things for different people. I do yoga several times a week. It keeps me limber so I can ride my horse. And riding my horse is something I do solely for my benefit. I get to be in the wilderness, breathe fresh air, see the trees and the sun and the flowers and the birds. Which really makes me happy and does wonders for my mental health. Find something you like to do and DO it. For YOU.
THIS IS BY NO MEANS A COMPLETE LIST. There are other things, like having a yearly dental exam, losing excess weight, etc., but these are a few of my favorites.